“I don’t have friend. I only have family” These words with a gloomy tone from my 7 years old son brought tears to my eyes and an ache to my heart a few days back. Before going to bed I asked him to pray and as he recited his prayer, he prayed saying “God please bless my family and friends and keep them safe”. But soon after the prayer as he laid on the bed, he put his hands around my neck and tried sharing his feelings sorrowfully.
Swallowing a lump in my throat and wiping the tears at the corner of my eyes, I assured him that his family also can be his friend but deep down in my heart I knew it wasn’t the answer Asher was seeking……..
I wasn’t sure if he has begun to realise what’s missing in his life that his life doesn’t appear as same as the kids playing in our neighbourhood or the kids who are wearing their uniforms and waiting for their school buses in the morning. I was not sure if he has begun to realize his challenges and differences. But I was sure for one thing that he longed for a friend, someone to talk to, to play with and to jump along, someone to partner with him in all sorts of crazy inventions, someone who is just like him, someone who doesn’t laugh at him but laughs with him, someone whom he can trust and someone who is always there by his side.
Many times in our lives, we feel the same like Asher. Specially In the midst of life’s hardest challenge and seclusion we wish there should be someone to understand, to feel the way we feel, to lend a listening ear, to put a loving arm around our shoulders and to offer an assurance of a genuine and selfless friendship. Despite having thousands of friends on social media and lots of friend requests to confirm, despite having many friends added in our mobile’s contact lists and many more around us on every occasion, somewhere still our heart longs to have just one friend who understands, who doesn’t judge, who listens and who feels the way we feel. And in the midst of that intense loneliness our heart cries saying “I don’t have a FRIEND”.
But here’s the beautiful truth we often overlook which Jesus has promised-
“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” John 15:13-15
Jesus invites you and me to be His friends. He asks us to give away our burdens and sorrows to Him. He opens His arms wide enough so we can run to Him and be comforted.
If you feel lonely, He knows how loneliness feels like
If you feel rejected, He knows how rejection feels like
If you feel ridiculed, he knows how it feels like
If you feel tested beyond your strength, He knows how it feels like
If you feel betrayed, He knows how betrayal feels like
If you feel questioned about your calling, He knows how it feels like
If you feel like giving up, He knows how it feels like
If you are in pain, He knows how it feels like
If you are going through a death like situation, He even knows what death feels like
Because He has gone through and experienced every pain and every feeling to its intensity.
He is your true friend, who doesn’t judge but simply loves, who is your ever present help, who is your counsellor, comforter, who never ceases to lend you His listening ears, who understands what you go through, whom you can trust fully and who is just right beside you putting His loving arms around your shoulders saying” I will be with you always, even until the end of the world.”
Can you ever have a friend who is so faithful & true?